15th May- A Mood

OK – so I’m disgruntled! Actually, it’s one of my most creative moods and one which, if I am grumpy enough, forces me to action. In this case nothing more drastic than writing- something, in fact, I long to make more time for – so praise be!

Years of built up disgruntledness seem to be coming to the fore today. I’ve been putting up with so much for what seems like so very long – for what I conceive of as passable payoffs. Sometimes these payoffs feel like ‘marvellous opportunities’. But then I’m reminded of a previous life when I felt the same,  but I was forced to give up – willy-nilly – anyway. And, in the end, thank God, or maybe thank Gaia.

I can’ t be sure – maybe I am indeed on the brink of coming into my own ….or maybe ‘my own’ is already here, quietly unrecognised. Quietly unvalued. I place too much faith in others, in ideas.

‘It’s not the despair, the despair I can handle – it’s the hope!’ (Clockwise)

So let it go.

I think my greatest trials are sometimes related to the undervalued feminine. I am more grateful to Joyce Fletcher than I can say, and also to Shaman Dawn Russell. What, really, is the feminine way of operating? Both these people know something about it and both know how to identify and value it. With many of my heroes as male,  that is food for thought. What is feminine power? What are feminine ways of working? How can we know when we are so deep in our one sided paradigm? Is it discipline? Competition? Success? Winning? Or is it something far more collaborative, woven from many strands, nameless, faceless – supportive of the collective.

What is the alternative to the warrior for a woman? The grower? The nurturer? The weaver?

And feminine rage – what is that ?

One thought on “15th May- A Mood

  1. Helen, a couple of thoughts.
    First, I am, as you may have noticed, a man. I cannot know what the experience of being a woman is (not, at least, if the word “experience” has any meaning) and I refuse to pretend that I do. I can listen, question and learn.
    I can, however, observe what, in general (dangerous concept) seems to be different about how women work than how (in general) men tend to work. When I read Fletcher, her discussion of the relational way of working, bells started ringing – even if I had probably not have been able to put it in words before. So I defer to Fletcher rather than try to summarise that.
    That doesn’t mean that all women work that way and that no men do. It’s only a generalization but it’s a reasonable one. I do think a surprising number of men would be more comfortable working relationally but find it hard to break out of the traditional masculine mould – either because their own psyche finds it hard or because it is looked down on by (male) colleagues.
    And that makes me unhappy about characterising ways of working as necessarily masculine or feminine and looking for some golden mean. Why can’t one be a warrior (whatever that is) and a carer/nurturer?
    Enough (for now). Thanks!

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